What I Really Want for Mother’s Day
Being a mom is hard. Any mother you speak to knows this. The mental strain of keeping track of everyone’s likes and dislikes, what’s in the fridge, when errands need to be done and when laundry needs to be done is absolutely exhausting. Then on top of that, we plan every single day. We plan activities, meals, chores, and every other little detail that may or may not be noticed by the rest of the family.This is why Mother’s Day is so important. It’s a day to let mom know that you appreciate all the little things that they do. It’s a day to give them a break. Moms need this. It’s so easy to feel like everything you do as a mother goes unseen. We aren’t the best at letting our needs known since we are so used to always taking care of everyone else.
Mother’s Day is a time to say thank you to mom. There is the typical breakfast in bed, a nice gift, maybe some flowers. The rest of the day is often a question of, “What do you want to do, Mom?” That is my least favorite question! I spend every day making decisions. What’s for lunch? What’s for dinner? What activities are we going to do? On and on throughout the day, it’s always mom making the decisions.
So, what do I want for Mother’s Day? I want to not have to make any decisions. I want to have a day where I can just enjoy the day and not have to choose what we are doing or eating. If the food isn’t made for me, I don’t care, just tell me what to cook. Of course, I’d like to spend the day with my family, but I don’t want to choose where we go and what we do.
This may seem like a strange request. However, it sounds like a perfect day for me. My husband knows what I like to eat and what I like to do. I don’t have to tell him. We’ve been together for more than 10 years and knows me better than anyone. Me not making decisions doesn’t mean that we wouldn’t be doing things that I like.
I don’t care about a gift. I don’t need more stuff. I don’t wear jewelry since my son is young and likes to pull on shiny objects. Flowers always die quicker than I’d like. A day without thinking is the best gift anyone could give me. It’s a break from my daily routine of headaches from all the mental power it takes to keep my family happy and fed.
That’s why this year, I just want a nice day together that is planned by someone else. I’ll still change diapers. I’ll even cook as long as someone else chose the recipe and did the shopping! These aren’t things I care about doing. It’s the decision making ALL the time that drives me crazy.
What do you really want this Mother’s Day? Does this idea of not having to make decisions sound as good to you as it does to me?
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50 Comments
Nicolette
Yep! I love your perspective on this!
Kat
Thank you!
Holly
I usually like doing something fun and out of the ordinary with my kids for Mother’s Day…not sure what we will do this week though.
Kat
Thats a great tradition!
Sarah
I love this idea! Except no diapers or cooking for me, lol 😂
Kat
Haha. Id rather not, but if it means no decisions ill do it. Haha
WAHMCat
I completely can relate – on a slightly different level. I like the decision making. I would rather have a day with no expectations. No appointments. No mom taxi. Just one day. I’ll enjoy those things the rest of the year. Very smart of you to get your thoughts out there. Does your hubby read your blog?
Kat
Sometimes he does. This one I’ll probably need to tell him to read! 🤣
Amie
I always love going to brunch for Mother’s Day whenever possible. I hope your day is marvelous this year.
Kat
Thank you. I hope you have a wonderful brunch!
Evelyn, PathofPresence 🦋
I bet this message is approved by 9 out of 10 moms!!! My sentiment is the same – and what a gift it’s be, to not have to make one single decision for the day. Utopia. I’ll think of you and send you mental flowers on May 13th this year. 😘 Thanks mama!!
Kat
Thanks! Same to you!
Lup Wai
That’s the list I want too!! Or at least some peace and quiet moment on my own with no “mummy, mummy!”. Just that moment…. 🙂
Kat
Sounds like heaven!!!
Diane
That sounds amazing and like a wonderful gift! Lol, I might be stealing your Mother’s Day gift idea and asking my family to give me a day off from decisions, too! Thanks for sharing!
Kat
I’m glad you enjoyed it!
Caylissa
I can not even imagine a day without having to make decisions! Have a day of relaxation would be the perfect gift!
Kat
Yes! We can dream right?!?
Kristi Ann
A day without decisions would be wonderful!! I love that idea for Mother’s Day!
Kat
Thanks!!!
Stephenie
I so understand that feeling! There are so many decisions a mama has to make all day every day.
Kat
It can get so overwhelming!
Liz
Not making decisions all day would be kind of nice! So interesting to hear what would make you feel loved because it’s different for everyone. I think my ideal mother’s day would be one with no cooking and cleaning, and snuggles with my kids. Great post!
Kat
That’s a great day as well! We are all different, so true.
megan
I love the thought of a day of no decisions. Maybe he could throw in a manicure or a massage and really put that cherry on top. haha But yea we’re mommas we will still do all our momma duties on Mother’s Day so having someone make the decisions will make it a wonderful day!
Kat
Exactly!!!
Sejal Khanna
That sounds like a perfect gift. Not having to worry or make decisions for one whole day!
It does take a toll, always thinking, always planning, always deciding. A Break for a day is exactly what i will love too.
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Kat
Sounds like heaven right?
Holli McBride
No decision making for an entire day???? Is that Heavenly concept even possible????you nailed this! I HATE figuring out dinner! “What’s for dinner?” I DON’T CARE!!!!! Lol! Ok maybe I care a little…but NOT on Mother’s Day. I think this sounds like a perfect day to Kat!!!!
Kat
I thought you’d like it! Sounds like a dream right?!?
Candi Randolph
Love your post! One or two decisions made daily may not be a big deal, but when you add them all up, day after day, it can be overwhelming. Have one special day without that stress is priceless!
Kat
Agreed! It’s amazing the number of decisions a mother makes daily!
Cailtyn
I’m with you on wanting a day when I don’t have to make any decisions. Sometimes I like to say I’m on decision strike. It’s nice to just not have to plan and think about what happens next. it’s exhausting!
Kat
Yes! Such a mental strain not everyone understands.
Karen
I would love a day without having to come up with what we are going to eat!
Kat
I hate the question, “what’s for dinner?” You figure it out! Haha
Shawniece
I agree! Just having a day doing nothing but lay around and watch my favorite shows and eat ice cream and cake. That would be ideal
Kat
seriously!!!
Rae
I so agree! Let my brain rest for the day.
Kat
Yes!
Anitra
I agree, having a day planned out for you where you don’t have to worry about anything does sound amazing!
Kat
It NEVER happens!
Jody
This is great and very familiar! The best day is the one where the people you care about have built the day and you just get to travel through it. Hope you get what you want for Mother’s Day!
Kat
Thanks! Now I just need to show my husband this post.
Maggie | TotallyTeenTravel.com
A day without making decisions sounds PERFECT! I love this!
Kat
Thanks!
Katie
This is exactly what I want for Mother’s Day! And maybe dinner made for me too, I mean it is My Day right?! Happy Mother’s Day to you, I hope you don’t have to make any decisions at all!
Kat
Yay!!! To an easy day!
Verla
Good idea to get your expectations out there early. And a lovely low/no cost solution for a perfect day. It may also draw awareness to all that decision making capacity in the family.
Kat
Yes! That’s part of my intention!